Kids

[SeaPA]

Originally posted by KLNole:
Bottom line, if you decide you want to start a family, you will never regret it. The late nights, the teething ( dip your finger in Jack Daniels and rub it on the gum line works almost everytime)

When the boys were little, that didn't work all that well for me; I gave up on it & started guzzling shots straight from the bottle.

 

[Formerly Rockymtnole]

Originally posted by SeaPA:

Originally posted by KLNole:
Bottom line, if you decide you want to start a family, you will never regret it. The late nights, the teething ( dip your finger in Jack Daniels and rub it on the gum line works almost everytime)

When the boys were little, that didn't work all that well for me; I gave up on it & started guzzling shots straight from the bottle.

That's how we ended up with three.

 

[KLNole]

One way or another, alcohol helps.

 

[Democratic Nole]

Originally posted by Noleguy06:

Originally posted by KLNole:

Bottom line, if you decide you want to start a family, you will never regret it. The late nights, the teething ( dip your finger in Jack Daniels and rub it on the gum line works almost everytime) the diapers along with a host of other "duties" will wear on you, but I would not trade it for anything. The rewards are immeasurable. You get to show them your world and even the most simple thing of playing catch (cue the Cats in the Cradle music) will always stay with you. My wife is ten years younger than me and out kids are now 9 and 12 and I rue the day they are out of the house, they make life (the good and the bad) a helluva a lot more exciting. And when me and the wife need to get away to Jamaica, we ship the kids to their grandparents. Now grandparents, that is another story, they will spoil the hell out of your kids in ways they never spoiled you.

Many do regret. I feel like while many love having kids, the replies are of course going to heavy favor saying how great they are. I feel, while in minority there are more parents who in fact do regret having kids but don't come out and say it.

I tend to agree. Most people aren't going to post on here about how they hate their kids. Bottom line in my opinion is that regardless of your choice, make sure you put a lot of thought into it and that you and your spouse are on the same page. Way too many people decide to have kids without thinking about it and those children in many cases suffer greatly.
Posted from Rivals Mobile

 

[LT4PLY]

Originally posted by Democratic Nole:

Originally posted by Noleguy06:

Originally posted by KLNole:

Bottom line, if you decide you want to start a family, you will never regret it. The late nights, the teething ( dip your finger in Jack Daniels and rub it on the gum line works almost everytime) the diapers along with a host of other "duties" will wear on you, but I would not trade it for anything. The rewards are immeasurable. You get to show them your world and even the most simple thing of playing catch (cue the Cats in the Cradle music) will always stay with you. My wife is ten years younger than me and out kids are now 9 and 12 and I rue the day they are out of the house, they make life (the good and the bad) a helluva a lot more exciting. And when me and the wife need to get away to Jamaica, we ship the kids to their grandparents. Now grandparents, that is another story, they will spoil the hell out of your kids in ways they never spoiled you.

Many do regret. I feel like while many love having kids, the replies are of course going to heavy favor saying how great they are. I feel, while in minority there are more parents who in fact do regret having kids but don't come out and say it.

I tend to agree. Most people aren't going to post on here about how they hate their kids. Bottom line in my opinion is that regardless of your choice, make sure you put a lot of thought into it and that you and your spouse are on the same page. Way too many people decide to have kids without thinking about it and those children in many cases suffer greatly.
Posted from Rivals Mobile

This is because most people don't hate their kids.

Many will joke about the downsides of having kids but the overwhelming majority will find that the upside far outweighs the down.

 

[AdNole]

I have already offered up 2 of my 4 kids earlier in this thread. Still no takers.

Originally posted by LT4PLY:

Originally posted by Democratic Nole:

Originally posted by Noleguy06:

Originally posted by KLNole:

Bottom line, if you decide you want to start a family, you will never regret it. The late nights, the teething ( dip your finger in Jack Daniels and rub it on the gum line works almost everytime) the diapers along with a host of other "duties" will wear on you, but I would not trade it for anything. The rewards are immeasurable. You get to show them your world and even the most simple thing of playing catch (cue the Cats in the Cradle music) will always stay with you. My wife is ten years younger than me and out kids are now 9 and 12 and I rue the day they are out of the house, they make life (the good and the bad) a helluva a lot more exciting. And when me and the wife need to get away to Jamaica, we ship the kids to their grandparents. Now grandparents, that is another story, they will spoil the hell out of your kids in ways they never spoiled you.

Many do regret. I feel like while many love having kids, the replies are of course going to heavy favor saying how great they are. I feel, while in minority there are more parents who in fact do regret having kids but don't come out and say it.

I tend to agree. Most people aren't going to post on here about how they hate their kids. Bottom line in my opinion is that regardless of your choice, make sure you put a lot of thought into it and that you and your spouse are on the same page. Way too many people decide to have kids without thinking about it and those children in many cases suffer greatly.
Posted from Rivals Mobile

This is because most people don't hate their kids.

Many will joke about the downsides of having kids but the overwhelming majority will find that the upside far outweighs the down.

 

[FSUATT]

Originally posted by nole71911:
1. Those that are 28-32, married couples that do not want kids how did you guys come to that decision?
2. Those that are 45+ without kids do you regret it?

We keep going back and forth on this and it is one terrifying decision!

I never fault couples who choose to not have kids. I have a lot more respect for them, as opposed to ones who have (and keep having) children but do not properly take care of them. This planet already has too many people on it.

 

[DanC78]

Originally posted by Democratic Nole:

Originally posted by Noleguy06:

Originally posted by KLNole:

Bottom line, if you decide you want to start a family, you will never regret it. The late nights, the teething ( dip your finger in Jack Daniels and rub it on the gum line works almost everytime) the diapers along with a host of other "duties" will wear on you, but I would not trade it for anything. The rewards are immeasurable. You get to show them your world and even the most simple thing of playing catch (cue the Cats in the Cradle music) will always stay with you. My wife is ten years younger than me and out kids are now 9 and 12 and I rue the day they are out of the house, they make life (the good and the bad) a helluva a lot more exciting. And when me and the wife need to get away to Jamaica, we ship the kids to their grandparents. Now grandparents, that is another story, they will spoil the hell out of your kids in ways they never spoiled you.

Many do regret. I feel like while many love having kids, the replies are of course going to heavy favor saying how great they are. I feel, while in minority there are more parents who in fact do regret having kids but don't come out and say it.

I tend to agree. Most people aren't going to post on here about how they hate their kids. Bottom line in my opinion is that regardless of your choice, make sure you put a lot of thought into it and that you and your spouse are on the same page. Way too many people decide to have kids without thinking about it and those children in many cases suffer greatly.
Posted from Rivals Mobile

hmmmm....I don't know about all this. I don't think there are people that say they regret having kids, or they wish they didn't have their kids (unless they are dead beats, so lets throw that group out and stick with the ones who are being responsible) But more less, wish they had done some things in their life before they had their kids.

The types you are referring to, IMO, are people who weren't prepared to have kids when they did and had other agendas and goals they were working toward when they received news of future baby on the way. The regret is that they didn't have their shit together when they did, or had them to early and didn't have a chance to do some of the things they personally wanted to do in life. Kids will rob you of some of that, or at least make you put off that goal for awhile...that's where the regret comes in...poor planning on their part. I don't believe they are actually regretting the child itself. Just the fact that they didn't plan their life out better is where the regret comes into play.....just my opinion.

This post was edited on 3/25 11:26 AM by DanC78

 

[Nole Lou]

Originally posted by DanC78:

Originally posted by Democratic Nole:

Originally posted by Noleguy06:

Originally posted by KLNole:

Bottom line, if you decide you want to start a family, you will never regret it. The late nights, the teething ( dip your finger in Jack Daniels and rub it on the gum line works almost everytime) the diapers along with a host of other "duties" will wear on you, but I would not trade it for anything. The rewards are immeasurable. You get to show them your world and even the most simple thing of playing catch (cue the Cats in the Cradle music) will always stay with you. My wife is ten years younger than me and out kids are now 9 and 12 and I rue the day they are out of the house, they make life (the good and the bad) a helluva a lot more exciting. And when me and the wife need to get away to Jamaica, we ship the kids to their grandparents. Now grandparents, that is another story, they will spoil the hell out of your kids in ways they never spoiled you.

Many do regret. I feel like while many love having kids, the replies are of course going to heavy favor saying how great they are. I feel, while in minority there are more parents who in fact do regret having kids but don't come out and say it.

I tend to agree. Most people aren't going to post on here about how they hate their kids. Bottom line in my opinion is that regardless of your choice, make sure you put a lot of thought into it and that you and your spouse are on the same page. Way too many people decide to have kids without thinking about it and those children in many cases suffer greatly.

Posted from Rivals Mobile

hmmmm....I don't know about all this. I don't think there are people that say they regret having kids, or they wish they didn't have their kids (unless they are dead beats, so lets throw that group out and stick with the ones who are being responsible) But more less, wish they had done some things in their life before they had their kids.

The types you are referring to, IMO, are people who weren't prepared to have kids when they did and had other agendas and goals they were working toward when they received news of future baby on the way. The regret is that they didn't have their shit together when they did, or had them to early and didn't have a chance to do some of the things they personally wanted to do in life. Kids will rob you of some of that, or at least make you put off that goal for awhile...that's where the regret comes in...poor planning on their part. I don't believe they are actually regretting the child itself. Just the fact that they didn't plan their life out better is where the regret comes into play.....just my opinion.


This post was edited on 3/25 11:26 AM by DanC78

It's not just planning...if you have kids, then your husband up and leaves you, and doesn't pay support, leaving you poor and with no help, then that will change your opinion on things.

I would say that even the vast majority of those people no longer regret kids later in life when they've gotten out the other side. Some still will regret it, but there will always be some people who regret anything.

Going to college, buying a house, saving money, getting rich...you will always find someone who regrets what the majority of people find positive. I don't think you would tell someone to try not to get rich, or a better job, just because you can find people that say getting wealthy was the worst thing that happened to them.

In other words, if you know you want kids, you shouldn't have them. But if you think you do or might, it would make zero sense to NOT have them because you might regret it.