My wife and I are the perfect example of opposites attract. She is so OCD it drives me crazy and I am about as opposite in the other way as possible. Through the years though I have found I need a little OCD in my life and she has found she needs to lighten up in some areas. Outdoor activities has been my life with boating and diving top of the list. She could not even swim when we first met. Later she became a certified diver, not to the extremes I am but she does enjoy diving, snorkeling, scalloping, fishing and such. I have learned I enjoy going to art galleries (not the high end stuff but more of the local galleries) Also have learn to like theater, again more of the community type and not necessarily the big productions.
However in our core beliefs and values we share a great deal in common, our faith, our political views, but I am more extreme than she is, and our favorite college team.
I work with a guy who he and his wife have absolutely nothing in common. Race is the most noticeable thing with him black and her white. She is absolutely far left on her political beliefs and he is about as right wing as I am. If she were younger and near where all the demonstrations are taking place she would be right there with the antifa nitwits.
He wears a MAGA hat and she can't stand Trump. He loves the NOLES and she hates BB and all things NOLE and is a um fan. She goes to church with him but disagrees with all the preacher says. He was talking about her and her views this morning. He said her views are getting more and more extreme all the time to the point it is causing strife in the marriage.
It got me thinking about differences in a spouse and if I could be married to someone so opposite. Like with my wife I could handle some personality differences, in fact I think it is a good thing. However I know I could not would not be married to someone with a complete polar opposite values and beliefs that I have. The list of things that would be a no go for me is : Religious beliefs with her being an atheist, her having far left political views, being total jerk gate of cane fan.
Race, job, casual uf or um fan, or slight differences in views would not be deal breakers but the others would be a no go for me.
Could you be married to someone who is completely opposite of you in your core values?
However in our core beliefs and values we share a great deal in common, our faith, our political views, but I am more extreme than she is, and our favorite college team.
I work with a guy who he and his wife have absolutely nothing in common. Race is the most noticeable thing with him black and her white. She is absolutely far left on her political beliefs and he is about as right wing as I am. If she were younger and near where all the demonstrations are taking place she would be right there with the antifa nitwits.
He wears a MAGA hat and she can't stand Trump. He loves the NOLES and she hates BB and all things NOLE and is a um fan. She goes to church with him but disagrees with all the preacher says. He was talking about her and her views this morning. He said her views are getting more and more extreme all the time to the point it is causing strife in the marriage.
It got me thinking about differences in a spouse and if I could be married to someone so opposite. Like with my wife I could handle some personality differences, in fact I think it is a good thing. However I know I could not would not be married to someone with a complete polar opposite values and beliefs that I have. The list of things that would be a no go for me is : Religious beliefs with her being an atheist, her having far left political views, being total jerk gate of cane fan.
Race, job, casual uf or um fan, or slight differences in views would not be deal breakers but the others would be a no go for me.
Could you be married to someone who is completely opposite of you in your core values?
