I lost my 16 year old son last week
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Matthew was a husky kid who played one year of indoor about 4 years ago. I coached his team, a team of coed's who never played before. We did not have practices, but I had 5 minutes once to show them how to use the boards. That game, we were down by one and had a free kick with 10 seconds left, this big kid, Nick, took the free kick and I had the players stand in front of the keeper to get the board rebound. The kick falls just short of the keeper, and Matthew, like in hockey, stuck his foot out, flicks the ball and the ball goes straight up in the air and over the keeper's head for the tying goal. It was one of the best goals that I had seen live!
I come back to this page constantly. I don't know what I hope to find. I guess it's just to be in solidarity w/Manch. I've broken down so many times in the past week thinking of their pain that I can't count the number.
As everyone has said, I can't imagine the thought of losing my own child. She's 14. I worry about her every second she's not with me. She's been with her mother this week, so I haven't seen her since I learned of Matthew's passing. I'm going to pick her up from school in 20 minutes and all I can do is sit her and weep at the thought of how much I love her, how I can't wait to hold her...
It's just so very cruel what has happened.
As everyone has said, I can't imagine the thought of losing my own child. She's 14. I worry about her every second she's not with me. She's been with her mother this week, so I haven't seen her since I learned of Matthew's passing. I'm going to pick her up from school in 20 minutes and all I can do is sit her and weep at the thought of how much I love her, how I can't wait to hold her...
It's just so very cruel what has happened.
Did you get in trouble from the wife for Yelling Scholes Scores Goals...Or Who ate all the pies? or maybe Glory GLory Man United..
I am a big Man Utd fan, as is my son now. Took him to his first Man U gave vs the Scousers in Miami a couple of years ago. Would love to watch a game with you one day
I am a big Man Utd fan, as is my son now. Took him to his first Man U gave vs the Scousers in Miami a couple of years ago. Would love to watch a game with you one day
Being a parent is terrifying when you get right down to it. Few hours before I read this thread I found out our good friends lost their 18 month old son. Just didn't wake up. Love 'em while you got 'em I guess. Scarey shit.
It's times like these, tragic times, that I'm reminded of how much good there is in people. Strangers, who aren't strangers at all, grieving together. I don't have any words that will ease your pain, but know that you're in our thoughts and prayers. Truly sorry for your loss.
I'm going to bump this one more time for those that might have missed it previously and may want to donate. There have been a number of good people doing admirable things in this thread.
I fixed something for you!
My wife and myself are just completely beside ourselves at the way the EXCELLENT people here have responded. I didn't want to post here because I was afraid that there might be one poster to say something off color about suicide. I spoke with someone about posting it here and he suggested that I do it because someone might be able to relate and help us with advice or a little counseling. Lesclaypool, also, advised me to post here, and I think I know why, so he could post the burial fund link, because when I spoke to him, I told him that I did not want to do that and make it looking like I was whoring for donations.
We can not thank you guys enough, first and foremost, for the thoughts and prayers! The thoughts and prayers have been that anonymous guy in "Footprints" because they are what carried us through this! As for the donations, the total dollar amount donated puts us right about where we need to be to pay the funeral home, in full, with a little bit left over, which will cover me being out of work this week.
Again, from the bottom of our hearts, we thank everyone here! You guys are a very special group of people and we send our thanks and love to each and everyone of you!
Scott/Simonne Perry
Sorry for your loss Manch, you and your family are in my prayers. Losing a child is my worst nightmare.
So sorry for your loss. My wife and I will pray for you, your family and your son. She lost her oldest son a few years before I met her and not a day goes by that we don't speak of him. I wish there were words. You will hold him in your hearts forever.
Thanks for the update. I hope all of you are somehow coping with this unfathomable loss.
Please keep vigilant, feelings that should be addressed can sneak up on a person. Sometimes it can happen very slowly so it is easy to write the feelings off. You might want see what's available in terms of counselling and set up a routine schedule for a period of time. A professional might be able to identify problem areas even before you do. There are options, from paid professionals to free, faith-based to I'm sure pro bono professionals.
Just a bit of advice, praying for you all.
Please keep vigilant, feelings that should be addressed can sneak up on a person. Sometimes it can happen very slowly so it is easy to write the feelings off. You might want see what's available in terms of counselling and set up a routine schedule for a period of time. A professional might be able to identify problem areas even before you do. There are options, from paid professionals to free, faith-based to I'm sure pro bono professionals.
Just a bit of advice, praying for you all.
Manch, haven't been on here in a while, was floored to read about your son. From one Nole/NewEnglander to another my heart is heavy for you and your family. Hope you will find solace somehow in the time you had together and hope that you will one day see him again. Hang in there buddy.
Manch, like others who don't show up here often, my prayers are with you. I can't understand the heartbreak you are going through but it makes me want to hug and kiss my children. I pray that God helps comfort you and your family.
