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My parents met in college in the late 40s. I met my wife at a bar through friends in 1986. @BrainVision, is there any correlation between where a couple meets and the length of the relationship?

Damn, sorry I missed this. Yes, there is a correlation, but it's complicated. The more powerful models include location/setting as a coefficient in multiple regression equations or multilevel analyses. Generally, the more the setting includes either an external expectation of success, e.g., church or an arranged marriage, or more intensive/persistent proximity, e.g., workplaces, school, etc., the longer the relationship tends to last.
 
Ah the halcyon days of our youth, and the road not taken.
I’m sure she had her way with you, an innocent young lad from Alabama.
😎😜
She certainly did, as the older and, as she would have told you with a great degree of pride, much more worldly of the two of us. Yet, I looked down that road as far as I could and <sigh> chose the other. And that has made all the difference…
 
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Damn, sorry I missed this. Yes, there is a correlation, but it's complicated. The more powerful models include location/setting as a coefficient in multiple regression equations or multilevel analyses. Generally, the more the setting includes either an external expectation of success, e.g., church or an arranged marriage, or more intensive/persistent proximity, e.g., workplaces, school, etc., the longer the relationship tends to last.
So, what if it was simply the sex was great?
 
Sexual satisfaction is a mixed, weak predictor of relationship persistence. In my couples therapy work, I describe it as the barometer of the relationship, as it tends to be an early, sensitive indicator of communication and intimacy problems. Succinctly, bad sex can definitely ruin a relationship, but good sex can not save one.
 
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Sexual satisfaction is a mixed, weak predictor of relationship persistence. In my couples therapy work, I describe it as the barometer of the relationship, as it tends to be an early, sensitive indicator of communication and intimacy problems. Succinctly, bad sex can definitely ruin a relationship, but good sex can not save one.

If 40% of marriages end in divorce, what percentage of marriages are successful?

Is it possible to answer that question?
 
Sexual satisfaction is a mixed, weak predictor of relationship persistence. In my couples therapy work, I describe it as the barometer of the relationship, as it tends to be an early, sensitive indicator of communication and intimacy problems. Succinctly, bad sex can definitely ruin a relationship, but good sex can not save one.
Interesting and very likely spot on.
I do think there is a difference between older couples versus younger marrieds.
I’ve read that there’s been an enormous uptick in “silver divorce” in the last few years and from what I hear and see among my age group it seems to be true.
Boomers got married and had a family, were very busy parenting and having careers and as empty nesters are home alone for the first time in decades sharing a life and a home with a person who is no longer the person they married thirty five years ago. I think that is an enormous adjustment and couples need to be cognizant of that and willing to talk frankly to the person they’ve shared their life with.
 
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