So the next time you feel sorry for yourself

[RangerNole]

I try and do my best to realize how blessed I am; but like most people I have bad days. Married almost 22 years, good job, kids are healthy, etc. my life is pretty good all things considered.
We have a friend who married her HS sweetheart, they had a great life, 3 kids, things were pretty good. About 15 years ago her husband goes to the hospital not feeling well, the next day he was dead from an aortic aneurysm. She eventually remarries a pastor and things are good. After about 5 years or so, the new husband pulls out about 6k from their bank account disappears for a week and ends up killing himself in a hotel room. Ok she finally moves on and is doing well. Last week her 17 year old son was playing Bball in the driveway and doesn't feel well, goes to the hospital; dead the next day from aortic aneurysm. I guess it was heredity or something; hopefully only in the male gene since she also has 2 daughters. Wife has been trying to console her, but what can you really say; in the last 15 years or so she has been through hell.

 

[Formerly Rockymtnole]

That is rough

 

[DFSNOLE]

Wow! She must be a strong woman.

 

[billanole]

Wow! She must be a strong woman.

Wow, what a string of sad events. Hopefully she finds her way forward.

 

[DanC78]

Very sad

 

[cmanole]

Need to count your blessings for sure. Recently two of our friend's children have had children with major health issues. You just never know what might come your way...

 

[SoddyNole]

With a story like that how could you keep from having a panic attack every time your daughters get sick of feel bad? That would be very difficult for me to handle.

 

[ericram]

So the moral of the story is stay away from this woman.

JK, that sucks. Yes, appreciate what you have all.

 

[VirginiaNole]

That's definitely very tough for sure. She is a very strong woman, hope that's the last tragedy she faces. I wouldn't wish that heart ache on anyone.

Having said that, its weird when the things are happening to you and then trying to staying positive.

Myself for instance, in the last two years, I have had a heart attack (heart stent inserted), accident which resulted in a lacerated kidney and broken ribs over the 2015 Christmas break. Diagnosed with kidney cancer in the lacerated kidney. Had kidney removed October of 2016. Kidney function in good kidney is now suspect as creatine levels are higher then normal.

So twice a year I get CT scans to make sure no spreading/reoccurrence of cancer, next one is scheduled for Monday. Today I get to visit my cardiologist to follow up on the heart thing. April 5 I get a another chunk of my back carved out as a precaution for skin cancer.....Did I mention I had melanoma back in 2007?

Kinda over all the BS poking a prodding, but I have to do it to stick around if I want to see my future grand kids and to run my business. So the feeling sorry for myself happens twice a year about this time and October, scared of what the CT scan may show.

I am nowhere near that level of tragedies, but in my world, its pretty stressful. To combat the "oh whoa is me" times, I remind myself that I am very fortunate that my ailments were caught early and are treatable, but then your mind tells you, you may not be so lucky next time....

If you would look at me you would never suspect anything...I am 53.

 

[billanole]

Spend every day on the top side of the ground being grateful. We all really do have much to be thankful for.

 

[funksouljon]

Damn, that is a really bad run of bad luck. She is tough, but that starts to feel like a cursed life. Tough to convince her "it will be okay...", sometimes people just get a bad deal. My uncle/aunt have had a REALLY bad month, so have been considering this subject a lot lately.

.........but like most people I have bad days. Married almost 22 years, ........

When I first read your intro, I missed the punctuation.

 

[RangerNole]

She is tough and has a strong circle of friends; but still that is a lot. I lost 10 relatives in about 3 year period, ALS, Helo Crash, old age, cancer etc. but they were BILs, Aunts, Grandparents etc. Losing 2 husbands and a son; keeping in mind 1 day everything was good and in either 1 day or 5 everything changed, that is pure shock. My wife is just being there and listening, watching, there really is nothing you can say. It certainly helps you realize what your minor problems are and maybe you should suck it up a little.

 

[RunRonnieRun]

What did the pastor do with the $6,000?

 

[NoleLizards]

So the moral of the story is stay away from this woman.

She sounds about as ominous as Angela Lansbury's character in Murder She Wrote. Everywhere Ms. Marple traveled, people keeled over left and right. I couldn't ever understand how she was never the suspect.

 

[RangerNole]

What did the pastor do with the $6,000?

From what I understand drugs, alcohol, hotel rooms and travel. I am sure many will have fun with that. I don't know if he had a problem and got clean or hid it and ust went off the deep end.

 

[ericram]

What did the pastor do with the $6,000?

Hookers and blow, obviously.

 

[JohnnieHolmesNole]

She is tough and has a strong circle of friends; but still that is a lot. I lost 10 relatives in about 3 year period, ALS, Helo Crash, old age, cancer etc. but they were BILs, Aunts, Grandparents etc. Losing 2 husbands and a son; keeping in mind 1 day everything was good and in either 1 day or 5 everything changed, that is pure shock. My wife is just being there and listening, watching, there really is nothing you can say. It certainly helps you realize what your minor problems are and maybe you should suck it up a little.

One of the cruelties of life is that all of the "adults" you grew up around -- think parents, aunts and uncles, and those of your closest friends -- can all expire in a relatively compact window. They are all in the same general age range, and, well, stuff tends to happen once you reach a certain point in life. I recall a period in my life when it seemed like we I was going to way too many funerals.

And then the same thing can happen to you when your spouse, your cousins and your own friends hit the "mortality zone." People again start dropping like flies. (I am not there yet....still extremely nubile and sporting stylish ascots, but we will all end up in the same situation eventually).

Pretty uplifting thread....thanks for starting this.

 

[FSUATT]

Need to count your blessings for sure. Recently two of our friend's children have had children with major health issues. You just never know what might come your way...

Try to get the most out of every day you are here on this earth. I've heard too many stories about people who put off doing things until retirement, and then died or had a major health issue shortly after retirement. Also, if you are in a unhappy or unhealthy situation, do whatever it takes to make it better.

 

[NolesofWrath]

Horrible for that to happen to one person.